What romance book will make me stop being such a stickler about romance?

I'm pretty open to all genres of fiction, but something about romance turns me into the worst Cinemasins-ass nitpicker ever. "I wouldn't do that, that's stupid," "This relationship dynamic is problematic," "This guy sucks, she can do so much better" kinda things. What could I read to get me to really understand the appeal of [...]