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  "description": "The Desire to Be Sad: The Allure of Tragically Beautiful Art and the Romanticisation of Mental Illness.",
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  "textContent": "The Allure of Tragically Beautiful Art and the Romanticisation of Mental Illness. – It is the look that sadness has learned to wear, poetically wrote, bound in leather, on a rainy windowsill with cigarette smoke and a string quartet. At present, to you I present, from that of a hotel. Typing whilst cocooned in polyester sheets, hugged in the warmth of a stranger’s sweat far more generously than my preferences would have set. A ceiling stain hangs above – the aftermath of someone else’s bad decision, is exposed by the moonlight creeping spitefully through the curtains’ previous refusal to close. Sleep just won’t come, instead, it stalks me from the corridor, jingling its keys and laughing. I know my tormentor, I know its face well, for I have recently given up smoking. But now in this moment, two weeks clean, all I want is to light a cigarette, burn away the craving, watch my discipline disperse as puffs of smoke into the nicotine-stained non-smoking room, and then I could finally sleep, in the ashes of whatever remained of my own dignity. I won’t, instead I’ll just suck on a plastic vape until I feel sick. Because that’s who I have chosen to be now, not an unhealthy smoker, but instead, a healthy mush of constant unfulfillment. Contemporary media has, with the meticulous diligence of a watchmaker confined to the ethics of a pawn shop, sold sorrow back to you as something radiant, like a tragically beautiful aesthetic, vignetted with a philosophy degree. Now one is to curate their grief, for if one is sad in the right way, one is deep, if one suffers photogenically, one is authentic. And it resonates for the misfits whose inner life is too messy to articulate, as aestheticised sorrow is a mirror that finally reflects something. In a world of blunt happiness and compulsory productivity, melancholy looks like rebellion – a quiet refusal to clap on command. But then the romance curdles because the stylisation of sadness has a tendency to wander into the romanticisation of mental illness. Depression becomes a badge, anxiety becomes a personality trait, and self-destruction becomes a kind of artistic proof-of-work. I remember, in a drunken distribution of my disclosed disposition of depression, someone called me ‘deep’. Naturally, I deposited it as compliment, for at that time in my life, it was the only compliment I had, other than the time a woman once said she was jealous of my eyelashes, – which, as a male, I’m not even sure still qualifies. Also, at that time in my life, I was in the market for a new personality, so ‘troubled writer with cigarette hanging from wine-stained lips’ appealed to me. The problem here was not a construction of sadness, as I was, and justifiably so, severely depressed. And my new personality did have some foundation, as I already drank wine, smoked cigarettes, and sought comfort in writing anyway. The problem was the reward – stay broken, it suits you. Because sorrow can feel meaningful, – it has weight, it makes you feel like you are something, even if that something is collapsing. In a culture that treats emotion like a stain to bleach out before returning to work – melancholy can feel like the only honest room left in the house. The more you inhabit the aesthetic, the more it begins to inhabit you, not consciously, just slowly, until tragically beautiful is no longer a mirror, but a blueprint. Not only could I now not give up drinking or smoking, but I also can’t even be happy, for recovery felt like betrayal. Because if your identity is built out of your pain – leaving that suffering behind can feel like abandoning the only thing that made your existence tangible. Not to be misread, this is no advocation against anguish as art, for art has always been where pain goes to speak. Honest portrayals can be lifesaving, they can validate the unseen, give words to the unspeakable, and pull someone back from the ledge by saying – you’re not the only one. But when pain appears painless, and is stripped of cost, those who splash about the surface, distract from the ones that are drowning. Suffering becomes a moodboard, and mental illness becomes a vibe, and when help is actually needed, the cry of despair becomes two likes and a share, before being lost forever in life’s doomscroll.",
  "title": "TRAGICALLY BEAUTIFUL",
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