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  "path": "/advice/2026/05/miss-manners-if-you-want-to-honor-someone-ask-what-they-actually-want.html",
  "publishedAt": "2026-05-02T19:00:00.000Z",
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  "textContent": "In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to concerns that surprise parties often serve the hosts and guests more than the person being celebrated and can be painfully awkward.",
  "title": "Miss Manners: If you want to honor someone, ask what they actually want"
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