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  "path": "/savage-love/2026/03/10/48370390/savage-love-poly-under-duress",
  "publishedAt": "2026-03-10T17:22:00.000Z",
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  "textContent": "Some of us start out poly, some of us achieve poly—others have poly thrust upon ’em.\n\nby Dan Savage Dear Readers: I’m off this week. To tide you over until I’m back, the tech-savvy, at-risk youth pulled some classic “PUD” questions from the archives. A PUD, of course, is someone who is “poly under duress.” Because while some of us start out poly and some of us achieve poly, others have poly thrust upon ’em. These are their stories.—Dan I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far been the best relationship I’ve ever had. However, something has me a bit on edge. We went on a trip with friends to a brewery with a great restaurant. It was an amazing place, and I was sure his wife would enjoy it. He mentioned the place to her, and her response was NO, she didn’t want to go there because she didn’t want to have “sloppy seconds.”…\n\n [Read more ]",
  "title": "SAVAGE LOVE: Poly Under Duress"
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