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              "plaintext": "So, Lesbian Visibility Week is coming to an end, and what does it mean? For me, it means that I can post a silly thinkpiece about lesbianism and what it actually means for me. "
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              "plaintext": "I remember talking about it with my friend a few months ago. I don't remember much from that conversation right now because of that pesky ADHD goldfish brain shit, but the point stuck with me: being a lesbian isn't just...the relationship part. "
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              "plaintext": "It's not just \"omg I'm dating girls only\". It's not making said discovery the only important aspect of your life. "
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              "plaintext": "It's realizing how strongly our trans sisters love women...to fight for becoming one. And that we need to learn from them. "
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              "plaintext": "The song attached to this post is some kind of a summary of what I feel right now, plus now I have a reason to spill. "
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              "plaintext": "Sure, the definition is different for every other lesbian out there, but...for me, it's this. As a baby gay in 2020, before getting out of my TERF phase, I struggled to understand that and blindly accepted whatever shit was thrown at me by them. "
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