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  "description": "Nathan Lane has spoken candidly about his mother’s reaction when he first told her he was gay, recalling a moment he described as one of the most difficult of his life.\n\nThe Only Murders in the Building actor shared the story during an appearance on SiriusXM’s The Howard Stern Show this week, explaining that he came out to his mother shortly before leaving home to pursue an acting career in New York in the early 1980s.\n\nLane, now 70, said he sat his mother down after years of never having lied t",
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  "textContent": "**Nathan Lane** has spoken candidly about his mother’s reaction when he first told her he was gay, recalling a moment he described as one of the most difficult of his life.\n\nThe _Only Murders in the Building_ actor shared the story during an appearance on **SiriusXM** ’s**_The Howard Stern Show_** this week, explaining that he came out to his mother shortly before leaving home to pursue an acting career in New York in the early 1980s.\n\nLane, now 70, said he sat his mother down after years of never having lied to her and told her that, contrary to what she believed, he had been seeing a man rather than a woman. He recalled her asking: “You mean you’re a homosexual?” - language he said he had never heard used in that way before .\n\nAccording to Lane, his mother’s response was not said angrily, but with sadness. “She said, ‘I would rather you were dead,’” he told Stern. Lane said he replied with dark humour, quipping: “I knew you’d understand” .\n\nReflecting on the exchange, Lane stressed that he does not hold resentment towards his mother, saying her reaction should be understood in the context of the era and her background. “You have to understand this is another generation,” he said, adding that she was “not a sophisticated person in that way” .\n\nHe described the conversation as the hardest thing he had done at that point in his life but said he felt compelled to be honest before moving away. “I felt like I needed to do that. I needed to be honest with her,” he explained .\n\nLane also revealed that he had asked his mother not to tell his brothers until he was ready to do so himself, but that she immediately contacted them. One brother was described as understanding, while the other “didn’t seem to care” and assured Lane of his love .\n\nThe Emmy and Tony Award-winning actor did not come out publicly until 1999, three years after starring in _The Birdcage_ alongside **Robin Williams**. He has previously spoken about the pressures faced by gay actors earlier in his career and the fear that openness could limit professional opportunities .",
  "title": "\"I would rather you were dead”: Nathan Lane reveals mother’s reaction when he came out",
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