It's 2026 and women are still asked to teach others to think a little bit and not be a prick

> I’ve never had any harassment / basic human kindness HR training at a job. So far, I’ve only seen descriptions of that being retold on the internet as a meme or in a Code of Conduct at tech events that most people scroll past. But tech companies (and their parents) clearly are not teaching “heyyyyy bestie can you please not be a monster / creep / prick?” so of course that labour is going to fall on a woman in her free time at a tech meet-up. > > We have to spoon feed bare minimum and many times, they just don’t want to get it. I saw the faces around me during this talk. I saw many of them zoning out and on their phones. > > But of course, our advice to women in tech is to lean-in!! Get a mentor!! Put yourself out there!! Work for free!! Be quiet!! Be the glue!!! Smile!! Be agreeable!! > > No! Here’s an idea: let’s teach how to fucking gather the evidence of harassment and bullying and use the law to full extent to push HR to do something about the rockstars. Maybe, many years ago, many people would have learned a few lessons if I had the money and support to do so then. Because now I only live with hatred and disgust every time some of those people still, for a fucking wild reason or just lack of self awareness, try to engage with me on social media.