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"description": "Because we really do need something like this...",
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"textContent": "Another outline that never saw the light of day. But for this one, I was just mulling it around in my mind and maybe even mentioned it here and there. It would've been _a lot_ , and each issue here really just needs its own dedicated presentation.\n\n* * *\n\n## Ease Into It\n\n 1. Introductions\n * Name\n * Pronouns\n * orientation, if applicable (usually volunteered without prompting)\n * How long they've been poly, current configuration(s) if applicable\n * icebreaker ideas\n * 1 fun fact\n * anything you'd like to know about today's discussion\n 2. Purpose of Discussion\n * to talk about the tough topics people want to gloss over\n * to stress the importance of politics in people's lives (some people's lives are inherently political)\n * (a third)\n * also mention intersectionality and kyriarchy\n 3. REMINDER: this is 201 **but because of the material, should this be a 101?**\n * basic polyam terminology may not be discussed\n * but newer audience should come away with how important this is, going forward\n\n\n\n## The Topics Themselves\n\nBe brief as possible to allow for discussion.\n\n * Sexism\n * [refer to someone else; a woman or non-man can speak here]\n * Racism\n * _Oh, I got this one._\n * Prejudice + POWER; it's not just discrimination. The systematic oppression is SYSTEMATIC.\n * Dictionary definitions tend to ignore societal impact of such\n * queerphobia/homophobia, and heteronormativity\n * transphobia and cissexism\n * biphobia\n * \"bi men are gross...\"\n * \"...but girl-on-girl is hot\"\n * [tap other speakers in, various genders if possible]\n * and mention the Unicorn Hunter problem\n * Neurodiversity\n * Mental Health\n * Ableism and Accessibility\n * Classism and Couple's Privilege\n * Miscellaneous...\n * \"Oppression Olympics\"\n * Intersectionality\n\n\n\n## Common Arguments\n\nAllow pauses for questions or clarifications. ...And take note of any you heard in discussions so far.\n\n * \"But it's just a preference!\"\n * Preferences don't happen in a vacuum\n * \"Your Poly Is Not My Poly\"\n * is the new YKINMK\n * used to gloss over legit criticism\n\n\n\n## Outro\n\n * last chance to bring up anything\n * more loose discussion, if needed\n * restate purpose of this discussion\n * to be more mindful of potential partners\n * to unpack bigotry, overt and otherwise\n * _especially_ the insidious stuff!\n * _Social Justice is here to stay, deal with it._\n\n",
"title": "TT: Polyamory 201",
"updatedAt": "2026-03-05T15:00:57.034Z"
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