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  "textContent": "\n\n\n\nWe’ve all been there. We get to a certain point in our screenplay and realize that the characters have to have sex. Yup, it’s the way to get the story moving forward.\n\nBut how can you write the best movie love scenes without them feeling like reading porn? And what are the deeper reasons you need to show the characters connecting on the page?\n\nToday we’re going to learn how to write a love scene, check out some of the best movie love scenes of all time, some tasteful love scenes, and even chat about a sex scene where a man makes love to a pie. And a woman makes love to a fish.\n\nSo loosen up your collars, dim the lights, and open a bottle of wine.\n\nMom, if you’re reading this, switch to my article on Cold Opens instead.\n\nLet’s do it!\n\n* * *\n\n## How to Write Sex Scenes\n\nI don’t want to cover the scene where people close the doors and the lights dim. Those are more romantic scenes of love.\n\nWe’re talking about sex scenes in movies.\n\nDoesn’t matter if they are funny love scenes or a sensuous love scene. If sex isn't happening, we won't be looking at the screenplay pages.\n\nBut what about writing love scenes?\n\nThere’s lots of semantics, but for the purpose of this article, I’m only going to cover consensual love scenes. There are lots of woke reasons to do this, and I don't think I need to spell them all out. I just want the material I’m reading in Hollywood to be better.\n\nThat starts with you.\n\n## Tips For Writing Sex Scenes\n\nI've been writing a lot of specs recently that have sex scenes in them. Mostly becuase I have delved into some ertoic thrillers and they're one of the tropes.\n\nBut also I have been craving movies for adults to come back, and part of that genre, in my opinion, is having your characters do what adults do...and have sex.\n\nI have some tips I've picked up over the years that I think can help you get the most out of these scenes and also write in a way that I think will make your work, l feel more classy and less...let's call it smutty.\n\nBut you do want some level of smut sometimes...it's a fine line to walk!\n\nHere are my tips:\n\n  * **Describe the _feeling_ of the encounter: **Modern industry standards (and the presence of Intimacy Coordinators) mean you should focus on action and intent rather than explicit anatomical descriptions.\n  * **Focus on the Power Shift** : In an erotic thriller, sex is a weapon, a negotiation, or a surrender. Use the scene to move the needle on the power dynamic. Does the protagonist lose their edge the moment they give in? Does the antagonist gain leverage? If the power balance at the end of the scene is the same as it was at the beginning, you’ve missed a narrative opportunity.\n  * **Lean into Sensation** : To keep it from feeling like porn, swap out clinical nouns for sensory verbs. Talk about the _heat_ of a breath against a neck, the _friction_ of silk against skin, or the _sound_ of a heartbeat thumping against a chest. You don't want to talk about the nuts and bolts explicitly.\n  * **Use the \"Before\" and \"After\" as Bookends:** The most \"adult\" part of a movie for adults is often the tension leading up to the act and the heavy silence following it. Use the \"Before\" to establish the stakes (the \"should we or shouldn't we?\") and the \"After\" to show the consequences. A character lighting a cigarette or avoiding eye contact after the act can tell the audience more about the plot than the sex itself.\n  * **Less is More for Dialogue:** Adults in these moments rarely give speeches. Keep the dialogue sparse, breathy, or non-existent. Let the subtext do the heavy lifting. In a thriller, what _isn't_ said during sex is usually the most dangerous thing in the room. And if they're talking, make it matter a lot!\n\n\n\n## How To Write The Best Movie Love Scenes\n\nOkay, you’ve gotten to that pivotal moment in your screenplay. It’s time for hanky panky. But how do you put that sex on the page?\n\nFirst, some protection.\n\n### Why are your characters having sex?\n\nI’m dead serious. Don’t just say because you want to see nudity. Or because you’re European. Sex on screen needs to be motivated. So whether its the first time Harry and Sally hooked up, or some _50 Shades_ stuff, sex needs to make sense for the audience to buy in.\n\nAs a society, we’re kind of moving past the pointless Bond-girl hookup in movies. So unless this is done with some pastiche, I want you to reconcile WHY your characters are having sex.\n\nAnd why the audience needs to see it.\n\nPerhaps you’re writing a movie like _Lust, Caution_ , where sex plays an integral part in this spy story.\n\nOr maybe you need the sex to be fun and awkward like in _Knocked Up_.\n\nWhatever the case, once you’ve justified the sex, you need to decide how it factors into the story. Because just like any other set piece, the love scene you're writing needs to fit within the overall tone of the movie too.\n\nNo one wants to see some hardcore stuff in the middle of _The Wedding Planner,_ and if your characters are in a post-apocalyptic society and a war with the machines was just won...you also don’t want to see some PG-13 kissing.\n\nSo let’s take a look at a few sex scenes in screenplays and see how they work.\n\n## How Sex Scenes Are Written\n\nWhen I was researching this article, I kept coming across lists of the hottest Hollywood sex scenes. Those are totally fun. I read a few.\n\nSex scenes are crazy. I worked for Mickey Rourke for a little while (I’ll cover that another time), and it was hard looking him in the eyes after seeing _9 ½ Weeks._\n\nBut if you’re looking for a hot, softcore list, you’re barking up the wrong tree.\n\nI want to take you into the screenplay pages and show you what sets up those memorable scenes.\n\nFirst, let’s take a look at the opening scene that started the spec screenplay sale explosion of the late 80s and early 90s.\n\nI’m talking _Basic Instinct_. Take a look at Joe Eszterhas’s opening pages.\n\n___________\n\nI _NT. A BEDROOM - NIGHT_\n\n _It is dark; we don't see clearly. a man and woman make love on a brass bed. There are mirrors on the walls and ceiling. On a side table, atop a small mirror, lines of cocaine. A tape deck PLAYS the Stones \"Sympathy for the Devil.\"\nAtop him... she straddles his chest... her breasts in his face. He cups her breasts. She leans down, kisses him...\nJOHNNY BOZ is in his late 40's, slim, good-looking. We don't see the woman's face. She has long blonde hair. The CAMERA STAYS BEHIND and to the side of them.\nShe leans close over his face, her tongue in his mouth...she kisses him... she moves her hands up, holds both of his arms above his head.\nShe moves higher atop him... she reaches to the side of the bed... a white silk scarf is in her hand... her hips above his face now, moving... slightly,__oh-so slightly_ _... his face strains towards her.\nThe scarf in her hand... she ties his hands with it...gently... to the brass bed... his eyes are closed... tighter...lowering hips into his face... lower... over his chest... his navel. The SONG plays.\nHe is inside her... his head arches back... his throat white.\nShe arches her back... her hips grind... her breasts are high...\nHer back arches back... back... her head tilts back... she extends her arms... the right arm comes down suddenly... the steel flashes... his throat is white...\nHe bucks, writhes, bucks, convulses...It flashes up... it flashes down... and up... and down... and up... and…_\n\n ___________\n\nOkay, what can we take from this one?\n\nThis scene gives you the blow by blow, and definitely gets incredibly descriptive, but look at how it uses sex to mirror the violence. That becomes a theme for the film, so it’s incredibly smart to add it to the first pages.\n\nAlso, this movie love scene isn’t so hyped up on describing the sex as much as building a mood. We’re getting this guy tied up, we’re disguising his assailant, and then we get him dead.\n\nThis is also a dynamic opening scene.\n\nSo what if we want our movie love scene to be a little more chaste?\n\nHow about the movie love scene from _Titanic_?\n\n## Learning From the Titanic Love Scene\n\n ___________\n\n124 INT. HOLD\nPUSHING IN on the rear window of the Renault, which is completely fogged up. Rose's hand comes up and slams against the glass for a moment, making a handprint in the veil of condensation.\nINSIDE THE CAR, Jack's overcoat is like a blanket over them. It stirs and Rose pulls it down. They are huddled under it, intertwined, still mostly clothed. Their faces are flushed and they look at each other wonderingly. She puts her hand on his face _,__as if making sure he is real._\n\n___________\n\nThe writing here is all about the moment. On a boat full of thousands, it’s just Jack and Rose for this moment. Instead of being completely caught up in the actual sex, this movie love scene keeps it completely personal.\n\nSince Cameron wrote AND directed it we can see how he wound up shooting it. Also shot for shot what’s on the page.\n\nIf you prefer your love scenes a little more fun, or between a man and his food, then let’s bring in _American Pie_. Written by Adam Herz, this movie reenvisions the sex scene.\n\n___________\n\n_INT. JIM'S HOUSE - KITCHEN - DAY\nJim enters his house, slinging his backpack off his\nshoulder.\n\nJIM\n(yells)\nMom?! I'm home!\n\nNo response. Jim walks into the kitchen, noticing a\nfresh-baked pie on the counter. Next to it is a note:\n\"Jimmy - Apple, your favorite. I'll be home late.\nEnjoy! Love Mom.\"\n\nJim sniffs the pie, taking in the aroma. Then stops...as\na quizzical look spreads across his face.\n\nAfter a moment of thought, he slides a finger into_ _the_\n _pie_ _. Moves it around a bit, studying the consistency.\n\nThen Jim becomes more curious. We can see the gears_ _in_\n _his_ _head start to turn. He looks down at the pie_ _like_\n _it's_ _... well, not a pie.\n\nEXT. JIM'S HOUSE - DAY\n\nJim's dad gets out of his car, carrying his briefcase.\n\nINT. JIM'S HOUSE - CONTINUING\n\nJim's dad comes in the door and stops dead in his tracks.\nHis face drops, appalled.\n\nJIM'S DAD\nJim?\n\nJIM\nIt's not what it looks like!_\n\n___________\n\nOkay, so what can we learn from this scene? Aside from how much Jim loves pie?\n\nThere’s the old adage, “show, don’t tell” in screenwriting. So this is all about implied sex. This love scene is not easy to write. This all has to be set up in act one when someone describes sex like apple pie.\n\nSo when we get home, the description has to build off planted knowledge, and while never explicitly described, this love scene has to play so we understand the payoff when Jim’s Dad gets home.\n\nAgain, when we talk about fitting the tone, this movie nails it. Pun intended.\n\nIf sex with a pie is a little too insane for you, may I present sex with a fish? But not any fish, an Academy Award Winning Sex with a Fish movie.\n\n## _The Shape Of Water_ Sex Scene\n\n _The Shape Of Water_ love scenes are intricately plotted and placed.\n\nAnd a lot of that is thanks to using a female perspective. It’s important to remember (in sex and screenwriting) that it takes two to tango. So you want any gender of people watching to connect with what’s on screen.\n\nGet other people to read your work!\n\nI tried to make sure we had some female screenwriters and their movies on this list. Vanessa Taylor and Guillermo Del Toro collaborated on this story.\n\nSince you're trying to get an audience to buy in on some fantastical sex, you really have to write this movie love scene delicately.\n\nBut Taylor doesn't shy away from diving in.\n\nPun intended...\n\nThere’s a theme to this movie, it’s about transcendent love, and we show that via a series of positive and negative movie love scenes.\n\nIt opens with a sex scene, masturbation to emphasize loneliness, and then becomes a really sweet story about a woman who finds someone who completes her.\n\nHere you also juxtapose the love between the Amphibian Man and Elisa with the sexual aggression by Strickland.\n\nOf course, we don’t really believe in love until this pivotal moment, where it just happens.\n\n___________\n\n_INT. ELISA’S BEDROOM / BATHROOM - DAWN\nElisa is alone- ready to sleep on the sofa. It’s dark but she’s awake, wired. She has her night mask on her forehead. Winds up her clock._\n\n_She eyes the bathroom door. She gets up, disrobes.\nElisa pulls the curtain back on the bathtub. Amphibian Man opens his eyes. She gets in, pulls the curtain shut. His markings light up. She closes the curtain._\n\n_They make love. Water splashes all around._\n\n___________\n\nSometimes the best way to show a movie love scene is just to tell us “They make love.”\n\nLet the director sort it out later.\n\nThis brings me back to what we talked about at the beginning of the post. This script gives you what you need to know without being pornographic.\n\nThese two beings are in love. The rest of the movie will hinge on this fact. That's simple enough stuff that can help you craft romantic scenes of love.\n\nSo far we’ve looked at a lot of scripts with characters who are comfortable with their sexuality. But how do you write a sex scene that’s about the discovery of that sexuality?\n\nI feel like we are in great hands with Barry Jenkins.\n\n_Moonlight_ is a masterpiece. It’s so complicated to balance timelines and emotions, but this movie does it with incredible aplomb.\n\nLet’s take a look at this beach love scene from the middle of the movie.\n\n___________\n\n_Their eyes meeting here, Kevin slowly_ _working_ _his hand along\nChiron’s neck, small movement, with feeling._\n\n_KEVIN_\n _Huh_ _Chiron?_\n\n_Slowly, nearly subconsciously, Chiron going weak, leans\ntoward Kevin, their weight supporting one another here on the\ndune._\n\n_All sound drowned by the echoing ocean, the night covering\nthese two as close as they’ve ever been._\n\n_Both sit up again, facing each other and still close, noses\nnearly touching.\nThey stare.\nThese are waters they’ve never charted, the culmination of\ninvitations they’ve been sending since day one._\n\n_Kevin smiles, his open lips brushing Chiron’s. Chiron\nstartles and... leans in._\n\n_Heavy this kissing, much deeper than just the meeting of\nlips. A moment more of this heavy petting then...\n...the sound of a buckle being undone, Kevin’s hand\ndisappearing down below, a gasp from Chiron and...\n...pressure. Rhythm._\n\n_Pressure and rhythm as Chiron’s breath\ncatches in his chest, head fully leaned to Kevin’s shoulder,\nfree hand grabbing at the sand as Kevin takes hold of him, a\ncaressing and a pulling and a soothing as_ _...._\n\n_...Chiron comes, holding onto Kevin for dear life, choking on\nthe sea breeze._\n\n_Kevin removing his_ _hand,__looks at the cum there before wiping\nit on the sand_\n\n _CHIRON\nI’m...I’m sorry._\n\n_Kevin looking at him with the kindest, most open face:_\n\nKEVIN\nWhat you _got_ _to be sorry for?_\n\n_Chiron considering that. Honestly so. The sound of the ocean._\n\n___________\n\nI included this scene because it’s the pinnacle of coming of age movies. For this movie, it’s Chiron letting himself be truly open with someone.\n\nThe writing here is poetic, it really builds the tension before the love scene begins.\n\nBoth boys here are becoming who they will be, and fostering their love. Look at the way the action is written.\n\nI particularly love this line:\n\n_All sound drowned by the echoing ocean, the night covering\nthese two as close as they’ve ever been._\n\nWe’re put in the mood, we understand there’s tension before the love can proceed. As the scene builds, the action takes us through each person’s emotions, and that reflects upon us.\n\nThis is more than just the cliche “gay love scene” on this list.\n\nIt’s universal and beautiful.\n\n## Summing Up How To Write the Best Sex Scenes\n\nAlright, let’s towel off and see what we learned about writing the best movie love scenes.\n\nSee how you can work them into three-act structure.\n\nRomantic scenes of love aren’t easy to describe on the page, but I think you now understand that your work needs to match the tone, have a point to it, and consider every side.\n\nMake sure your writing takes the audience through the emotions and gives them all the information they need to know.\n\nAbove all else, movie sex scenes need to have a point.\n\nWhen you sit down to write them, understand why they need to happen, and make sure they always take the audience to a deeper place.\n\nEven if that place is a laugh.\n\nOkay, let’s all take a cold shower and move on.\n\nGot a favorite sex scene? Let me know in the comments.\n\nWorking on a script? Join us for the Free Screenwriting Seminar!\n\nAnd no matter what, keep writing.",
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