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  "publishedAt": "2026-05-15T15:08:00.000Z",
  "site": "https://thechels.uk",
  "tags": [
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    "Derek Sivers →"
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  "textContent": "Really like this approach. I use some canned messages and text in my app ShortKeys. This feels like a sensible addition.\n\n> **I took an hour to write a really nice “no” in advance. ** Considerate, but decisive. Not too long, but not too short. Generalized and versatile for all situations.\n>\n> I saved it on my computer and phone, to copy and paste. Now as soon as I get an unwelcome request? Tap-tap-tap. COPY-PASTE-SEND in three seconds, and it’s out of mind.\n>\n> No anguish. No discomfort. No resentment. No procrastination.\n\n…\n\n> I won’t post my text here, since it needs to be in your natural voice. But here’s my outline, in case it helps:\n>\n>   1. a **clear “no”** right away\n>   2. **gratitude** , since I’m honored by my value implied in the ask\n>   3. **explanation** that to stay focused on a bigger “yes”, I’m saying “no” to everything else\n>   4. good wishes, and if my situation is temporary, an **invitation** to ask again next year\n>\n\n>\n> Four sentences is enough. Nobody wants verbosity here.\n\n» Derek Sivers →",
  "title": "No in advance"
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